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Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi okungakumbi ngeINDLELA onokuzikhusela ngayo xa kukho imfuneko enkulu?
Ukuzikhusela sisenzo esijolise ekuthinteleni isenzo esibuhlungu. Injongo yokuzikhusela kukuthintela uhlaselo olungekho mthethweni kuwe okanye kwabanye. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuzikhusela, kuquka ukuzikhusela ngokwasemzimbeni, ngamazwi, nangemfundo.
Kule nqaku ndiza kuxubusha yonke into oyifunayo ukucinga ngayo xa ukhusela ukuhlaselwa, ngokukodwa ngendlela yomzimba.
Oko sixoxa ngako kule post ibanzi:
- 1 Yintoni Ukuzikhusela?
- 2 Zikhusele ngamazwi nangokwazi
- 3 Ukuzikhusela: lilungelo elisisiseko
- 4 Indlela yokuzikhusela kuhlaselo ngokwesondo
- 5 Ulazi njani ixesha lokulwa?
- 6 Yintoni iMozulu eMandundu kunye noKugqithisela kweMozulu?
- 7 Zeziphi iimeko zonxunguphalo?
- 8 Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa uhlaselwa?
- 9 Isiphelo
Yintoni Ukuzikhusela?
ILungelo lokuZikhusela
Ilungelo lokuzikhusela lilungelo elisisiseko esinalo sonke. Kuthetha ukuba ungazikhusela kuhlaselo olungekho mthethweni kwipropathi yakho, efana nobomi bakho, umzimba wakho, ukungaziphathi kakuhle, inkululeko kunye nepropathi. Ukuba kukho umntu okuhlaselayo, unelungelo lokuzikhusela.
Ungasifaka Njani Ukuzikhusela?
Kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokusebenzisa ukuzikhusela kwimeko. Kufuneka uyazi into omawuyenze kwaye ungayenzi. Ngokomzekelo, usenokungasebenzisi amandla angaphezu kwayimfuneko ukuze uzikhusele. Kufuneka uwazi amalungelo akho xa uzithethelela.
Kutheni Kubalulekile Ukuzikhusela?
Ukuzikhusela kubalulekile kuba kunceda ukukhusela kuhlaselo olungekho mthethweni. Ikunika amandla okuzikhusela kuhlaselo olungafanelekanga. Kukwabalulekile ukwazi indlela yokuzikhusela ukuze ukwazi ukukhusela amalungelo akho.
Zikhusele ngamazwi nangokwazi
Ukuzikhusela ngomlomo nangemfundo
Endaweni yokuzama iindlela zokulwa, unokuphinda ulandele iikhosi zoqeqesho ezikuncedayo ukuba uzisombulule ngomlomo iimeko ezisongelayo kunye nokwandisa ukuqina kwengqondo yakho. Unokucinga ngeJudo yomlomo kunye nohlalutyo lwentengiselwano.
Ukuzikhusela ngokwasemzimbeni
Ukuzikhusela ngokwasemzimbeni kukusetyenziswa kwamandla ukuze kuthintelwe izoyikiso zangaphandle. Lo mkhosi unokusetyenziswa uxhobile okanye ungaxhobanga. Ukuzikhusela okuxhobileyo kusetyenziswa, umzekelo, iibatons, iiblackjacks okanye imipu, kodwa ezi zithintelo eNetherlands. Ukuba ufuna ukukhusela ungaxhobekanga, ungasebenzisa iindlela zokulwa okanye zokukhulula kubugcisa bokulwa, ubuchwepheshe bokulwa okanye usebenzise izifundo zokuzikhusela.
Ezinye iindlela zokuzikhusela
Ukuzikhusela ayisosenzo nje esisebenzayo. Kukwakho neendlela zokuzikhusela. Ugxininiso apha kukuthintela iimeko ezisongelayo ngokuthatha amanyathelo okukhusela. Cinga ngenkqubo yealam okanye iihenjisi nezitshixo ezikwaziyo ukuqhekeza. Unokunxiba ii-alam zobuqu onokuzisebenzisa kwingxakeko ukutsala umdla.
Ukuzikhusela: lilungelo elisisiseko
Lilungelo elisisiseko ukukhusela kubundlobongela obungekho mthethweni. IEuropean Declaration of Human Rights ithi ukusebenzisa izigalo ukuze umntu azikhusele akukokuhlutha ubomi. Umthetho waseDatshi ukwavumela ukusetyenziswa kwamandla ukuba kufuneka ukhusele umzimba wakho, isidima okanye impahla yakho kuhlaselo olungekho mthethweni.
Uzithethelela njani?
Zininzi iindlela onokuzikhusela ngazo. Ngokomzekelo, ungathatha ikhosi yokuzikhusela, apho ufunda indlela yokuzikhusela kumhlaseli. Unokuthenga isixhobo, njengesitshizi sokhuselo okanye intonga. Ukuba usebenzisa isixhobo, kubalulekile ukuba uwazi umthetho kwaye wazi ukuba ungasebenzisa izigalo kuphela xa ufuna ukukhusela umzimba wakho, isidima okanye impahla yakho kuhlaselo olungafanelekanga.
Zikhusele ngentloko yakho
Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa intloko xa ufuna ukuzikhusela. Xa ujongene nomhlaseli, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale upholile kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba wenze izinto oya kuzisola ngazo kamva. Zama ukuthomalalisa imeko ngokuthetha ngokuzolileyo kwaye umamele ukuba omnye umntu uthini. Ukuba awukwazi ukuyekisa imeko, kubalulekile ukuba uzikhusele ngentloko hayi ngamanqindi.
Lungela
Kubalulekile ukuba uzilungiselele ukuba kufuneka uzikhusele. Qinisekisa ukuba uyayazi into omawuyenze xa uhlaselwa. Umzekelo, thatha ikhosi yokuzikhusela okanye uthenge isitshizi sokuzikhusela. Hlalani nizama ukuhamba ngokwamaqela kwaye niqaphele indawo enikuyo. Xa uzithethelela, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale upholile kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba wenze izinto oya kuzisola ngazo kamva.
Indlela yokuzikhusela kuhlaselo ngokwesondo
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuzikhusela?
Ukuba uyaxhathisa ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo, unciphisa kakhulu umngcipheko wePost-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). I-PTSD sisifo sengqondo apho ukhumbula amava abuhlungu ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngoko ukuba uyaxhathisa, akukho nto unokuphulukana nayo.
Ingaba inkundla ijongana njani nokuzikhusela?
I-Praktijkwijzer ibonisa ukuba kwiminyaka yakutshanje akukho ngxelo epapashwe malunga nokuzikhusela kwiimeko zokuhlaselwa ngokungafanelekanga. Oku kungenxa yokuba abadlwenguli abakhawulezi ukuxela ukuba uhlaselo lwabo aluphumeleli, okanye ngenxa yokuba amaxhoba obundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo phantse akaxeli.
Iinkundla zePraktijkwijzer ikakhulu zijongana namatyala agqithileyo, afana nobundlobongela bemipu. Kodwa kukho nenye imeko apho inkwenkwe eyalatha indlela aziphatha ngayo kwamanye amakhwenkwe ebhasini, yabetha isithonga sokuqala emva kokuba isebenzise ulwimi olusongelayo. INkundla ePhakamileyo yagweba ukuba le nkwenkwana yenza ukuzikhusela, kuba abanye badale imeko apho ukhuseleko lwaluvunyelwe.
Unokuzithethelela njani?
Ngokutsho kwengcali yokhuseleko uRory Miller, njengomntu olungileyo kufuneka wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo malunga nobundlobongela. Kodwa lumka: akukho ngcebiso ngokubanzi yokunikela malunga namatyala asemthethweni. Yonke imeko yahlukile. Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ngakumbi? Emva koko funda iSikhokelo sokuSebenza okanye uqhagamshelane negqwetha elikhethekileyo kumthetho wolwaphulo-mthetho.
Ulazi njani ixesha lokulwa?
Kubalulekile ukwazi ixesha lokulwa kunye nexesha lokukhusela ngaphandle kobundlobongela. Ngokomthetho waseDatshi, unokuzikhusela xa uhlaselwa ngumhlaseli. Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini kanye oko? Kwaye wazi njani xa uwela umda phakathi kokuzikhusela kunye nobundlobongela obungenasizathu? I-Legalbaas.nl iyakucacisela.
Imozulu embi kunye nemozulu embi kakhulu
Phantsi komthetho, ungasebenzisa izigalo ukuzikhusela, omnye, isidima sakho, okanye impahla yakho kuhlaselo olukhawulezileyo, olungekho mthethweni. Kodwa kukho inqaku elisecaleni elibalulekileyo: kuyaqondakala ukuba uya kwenzakala ngaphandle kwezenzo zakho. Kumele ukuba bekungekho sisombululo sivakalayo nesingenabundlobongela kule meko.
Ngoko ukuba uhlaselwe ngumntu ongaphandle, ungabuyisela isibetho sokubetha umntu kuwe. Ukuba ke nithe nazingisa, ngoko sithetha ngesaqhwithi esigqithileyo: uqhwithela olukhulu. Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo kuvumeleke kuphela ukuba kunokwenziwa kucace ukuba umhlaseli ukubangele ukuba ube nobundlobongela obutshintshatshintshayo.
Xa kungekho mbuzo wokuzikhusela
Ngokufuthi, ngokutsho kwejaji, ummangalelwa ubuya umva kakhulu. Ngale ndlela, umntu okunene udlala ijaji yakhe, kuba kwakukho nezinye iindlela zokusingatha imeko. Kufuneka icaciswe gca enkundleni ukuba umntu ebengenayo enye indlela ngaphandle kokuzilwela ukuze akhuseleke. Ukuba awukwenzi oku, bobabini umhlaseli kunye nalowo ubetha ngasemva banokubekwa ityala lokubetha.
Utshintsho kumthetho wolwaphulo-mthetho
Uphuhliso olutsha kukuba iijaji ziya zikhetha ukuthethelela umntu ohlaselwayo xa bezithethelela. Ngokuyinxenye ngenxa yoxinzelelo oluvela kuluvo loluntu, lo mthetho utolikwa ngokuguquguqukayo ngakumbi nangakumbi, nto leyo ethetha ukuba ukuzikhusela kwamkelwa rhoqo enkundleni.
Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukwazi ixesha lokulwa kunye nexesha lokuzikhusela ngokungenabundlobongela. Qaphela ukuba eNetherlands uhlala ungena engxakini ngokwakho ukuba wena okanye omnye umntu uhlaselwa, ngelixa umhlaseli ebalekela izenzo zakhe. Ngoko lumka xa uzikhusela kwaye uqaphele ukuba kwezinye iimeko kungcono ukuphendula ngokungenabundlobongela.
Yintoni iMozulu eMandundu kunye noKugqithisela kweMozulu?
Yintoni Unxunguphalo?
Umthetho uyakuvumela ukuba usebenzise izigalo ukuzikhusela wena, omnye umntu, isidima sakho (ukunyaniseka ngokwesondo) kunye nepropati yakho kuhlaselo olukhawulezileyo, olungekho mthethweni. Kodwa kukho inqaku elisecaleni elibalulekileyo: kufuneka kucace ukuba wena ngokwakho ungenzakala ukuba awusebenzisi ubundlobongela kwaye akukho sisombululo sibambekayo, esingenabundlobongela.
Yintoni Ukugqithisela Okuqatha?
Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo kukunqumla imida yamandla ayimfuneko ekukhuseleni. Ngokufutshane: dlula. Umzekelo, ukuba umhlaseli wakho sele ehlile okanye ukuba unokubaleka ngaphandle kokuzifaka engxakini. Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo kuvumeleke kuphela ukuba kunokwenziwa kucace ukuba umhlaseli ukubangele ukuba ube nobundlobongela obutshintshatshintshayo.
Imizekeliso yoBambiso lweMozulu eMandundu
- Udlwengulo
- Ukuxhatshazwa okumandundu kwezalamane ezisondeleyo
- Okanye izinto ezifanayo
Ngamafutshane, ukuba uhlaselwe, uvumelekile ukuba ubuyisele isibetho ukuze unqonqoze umntu kuwe, kodwa ubophelelekile ukuba ufune ukhuseleko kwaye ungemi nakubani na. Ukuba wenza njalo, kunokubizwa ngokuba kugqithiso lwemozulu kaxakeka.
Zeziphi iimeko zonxunguphalo?
Yintoni iMozulu eMandundu?
Ukuzikhusela yindlela yokuzikhusela onokuyisebenzisa xa uhlaselwa. Noko ke, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba asizizo zonke iindlela zokuzikhusela ezithethelelekayo. Kukho inani leemeko onokuthi uhlangabezane nazo ukuze usebenzise imozulu embi.
Iimfuno zemozulu ezinzima
Ukuba ufuna ukuzikhusela ngokuzikhusela, kufuneka uhlangabezane nezi mfuno zilandelayo:
- Uhlaselo lwakho kufuneka lube ngekho mthethweni. Ukuba ubethe ipolisa lize likubambe, ayikokuzikhusela.
- Uhlaselo kufuneka lube "ngoko nangoko". Kufuneka uzikhusele kwimeko eqhubekayo ngelo xesha. Ukuba uyahlaselwa esitratweni kwaye ukhwele ibhayisekile ekhaya, fumana intonga yakho yehoki, ibhayisekile ukuya kwindlu yomhlaseli wakho kwaye umbethe, ayisosiphango.
- Kufuneka ube nenye indlela eyinyani. Ukubaleka kufuneka kube yinketho ukuba uzifumana ukwimeko. Ukuba uhlaselwa ekhitshini, akufuneki ubaleke uye kwibalcony ukuba awukwazi ukuphuma apho.
- Ubundlobongela kufuneka bulingane. Ukuba kukho umntu okubethayo ebusweni, akuvumelekanga ukuba ukhuphe umpu kwaye udubule umhlaseli wakho. Ukuzithethelela kwakho kufuneka kube malunga nenqanaba elifanayo nelolwaphulo-mthetho.
- Ungabetha kuqala. Ukuba ucinga ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo yokudubula ekubalekeni uhlaselo, musa ukulinda ukuba uthathe isibetho sokuqala (okanye ngakumbi).
Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa uhlaselwa?
Sivile sonke ukuba akufunekanga ubuyise umva xa uhlaselwa. Kodwa yintoni ofanele uyenze? Umgwebi unempendulo ecacileyo koku: ukuba uphela ukwimeko apho ubomi bakho okanye ingqibelelo yakho yasemzimbeni isengozini, unokusebenzisa ukuzikhusela.
Noko ke, ijaji ayivumi nje ukuba kuvele imeko yongxamiseko. Kuya kufuneka ubonise ukuba ubungenandlela yimbi ngaphandle kokulwela ukubuyela kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Ukuba ubuye umva kakhulu, ummangalelwa angangena engxakini.
Ungaya kude kangakanani?
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba akufanele usebenzise amandla angaphezulu kunokuba kuyimfuneko. Umzekelo, ukuba umhlaseli ukunika ukutyhala, awukwazi ukubuyisela umva. Kwimeko enjalo uye wasebenzisa amandla amaninzi kunomhlaseli, kwaye kukho ithuba elihle lokuba uya kugxeka.
Ngaba ijaji iya kukunceda?
Ngethamsanqa, kukho uphuhliso olutsha apho abagwebi besanda ukukhetha umntu ohlaselwayo. Uluvo lukawonke-wonke lunzima kakhulu kumthetho, ngenxa yoko ukuzikhusela kwamkelwa ngokufuthi enkundleni.
Ngelishwa, kwenzeka ukuba umhlaseli uyabaleka ngezenzo zakhe, ngelixa umkhuseli engena enkingeni. Yiyo loo nto kukho ikhwelo elandayo lendawo eyongezelelekileyo phakathi kwezaqhwithi, ukuze wonke umntu azikhusele kubundlobongela.
Isiphelo
Injongo yokuzikhusela kukuphuma kuloo meko ngokukhuselekileyo kwaye njengoko ufundile, isenzo esinzima kakhulu asisoloko sesona silungileyo. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba UNGAZE uhlasele omnye umntu, nokuba uyazikhusela.
Kodwa ukuba uyaxhathisa uhlaselo, uyawunciphisa kakhulu umngcipheko wePost-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Ngoko ukuba ukhe wazifumanisa ukwimeko apho kufuneka uzikhusele, musa ukoyika ukuxhathisa. Kuba xa kufikwa ebomini bakho, kungcono ukulwa kunokubaleka.
